Ear breathing

[kitty!]

Well, Then in THAT CASE.

You should hear my speech on how to give good head. It's my favorite, because it doubles as a serious thing and it also can be used to shock the boys when I explain to their girlfriends what a frenulum is.

[Queen_Sarah_Sunshine]

Oooo I wanna hear this speech now!

[Falling Man]

frenulum

If this is a misspelling, you are forgiven and I apologize for bringing it up.

This is as close as my online dictionary gets.

Fraenulum \Fr[ae]n"u*lum\, n.; pl. Fr[ae]nula. [NL., dim. of
L. fraenum a bridle.] (Anat.)
A fr[ae]num. fraenum

And I can not find my OED.

[Death Dragon2]

If this is a misspelling, you are forgiven and I apologize for bringing it up.

This is as close as my online dictionary gets.

And I can not find my OED.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frenulum

[Falling Man]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frenulum

Thank you. I walk away smarter that I was a while ago.

[BryanP]

Chica, if you're getting bored, he's not doing it right.

This.

Girls are much better, mostly cause they don't limit themselves to one set of bits.

I can confirm this second-hand. My um ... technique ... was greatly improved by some advice from a lesbian friend.

Although the single best bit of advice is something that seems incredibly obvious and yet a lot of guys (reportedly) don't seem to get it:

Pay attention.

Pay attention to what gets a positive reaction. Do more of that. Do variations of that. Pay attention to what gets a negative reaction. Don't do that.

[greyloch]

Oooo I wanna hear this speech now!

Ditto! A couple of years ago, I had to give "the talk" to one of my friends' kinda/sorta nieces. She was having boy trouble and didn't know what to do in bed or how to be safe. I made her practice putting a condom on a banana. Lots, and lots of times.

At one event I went to, there was a class called, "Lick A Witch; or Get a Taste of Religion," taught by two lesbians on useful techniques on the hows, whys, and wherefores of the proper worship of womanhood that was open to all... comers. (Ugh! Bad pun!!) But partners were not provided nor guaranteed if you were a guy there by yourself.

The next day, they had lots of women stop by their campsite and gave them massive hugs as their "boys" (or the guys they picked up after the event) learned something and put it to good practice.

[Dragyn]

Guys and Girls need to be open enough to talk to each other and lsiten to each other, but at the same time, know how to be safe. In otherwords, ask questions and be secure enough in yourself to ask and answer.

Difficult at times, but sharing can make things better for both. . . .

Does that make sense?

[Death Dragon2]

Pay attention.

Pay attention to what gets a positive reaction. Do more of that. Do variations of that. Pay attention to what gets a negative reaction. Don't do that.

Which was what I was getting at in an earlier post. Guys and girls need to learn that when they are first getting there sexually, that it is best to ask questions (ie, 'Do you like this?' 'Is this too soft/hard?') so as to learn what their partner likes best. Hilariously, this is coming from a total virgin. But there are quite a few useful articles in adult magazines (and no, I will not claim to read Playboy solely for the articles, seeing as the one issue I have has no articles whatsoever. The one issue of Swank I have does have a few articles, though.), as well as on the internet.

[BryanP]

Which was what I was getting at in an earlier post. Guys and girls need to learn that when they are first getting there sexually, that it is best to ask questions (ie, 'Do you like this?' 'Is this too soft/hard?') so as to learn what their partner likes best. Hilariously, this is coming from a total virgin. But there are quite a few useful articles in adult magazines (and no, I will not claim to read Playboy solely for the articles, seeing as the one issue I have has no articles whatsoever. The one issue of Swank I have does have a few articles, though.), as well as on the internet.

If you want some good no-nonsense instructional reading material, back when I was in my late teens I found The Sensuous Man (written in 1971 when I was 3) to be quite useful. There's a counterpart, The Sensuous Woman.

[Lithanial]

Gah! when did kitty get older? I been asleep for too long!

Though as input i think i frustrate the females by my insane lack of sex drive and constant desire to evolve myself beyond any carnal animalistic tendencies. People seem to put too much stock in these things; or maybe i'm just weird.

Now snuggles; snuggles are AWESOME!

[RazorJAK]

JAK's advice to oral sex ...

There is no ONE SECRET TECHNIQUE that will get everyone off. Sex is not a video game. There is no "secret code" to unlock orgasm in every partner. Learn your partner's body, dumbass.

If your partner is doing something that you don't like ... SAY SOMETHING, STUPID! Unless Prof. X is the one going down on you ... you're not fucking a mindreader.

If your partner is doing something you REALLY like ... SAY SOMETHING, STUPID!

If your partner shows they aren't an idiot and actually does follow the second and third point ... Take it as help, not criticism. Someone saying they don't like it when you nibble on the clit isn't the same thing as them calling you a dickless wonder who couldn't get a girl's rocks off if you tried.

In closing ... Even though your mouth is busy if you're doing it right; COMMUNICATION from BOTH participants is the key to good oral sex.

Givers, you need to listen!
Receivers, you need to pipe up!

This has been a production of the "Common Sense delivered with a 2x4" learning annex.

[Dragyn]

In closing ... Even though your mouth is busy if you're doing it right; COMMUNICATION from BOTH participants is the key to good oral sex.

Givers, you need to listen!
Receivers, you need to pipe up!

This has been a production of the "Common Sense delivered with a 2x4" learning annex.

This advice is good for not only oral sex, but relationships in general.

This delivered with the smaller "1X2" teaching tool.

[sableagle]

Sex is not a video game. There is no "secret code" to unlock orgasm in every partner.

If there was, some git with a wireless controller would be causing all kinds of trouble.

[kitty!]

I was dating the dude who thought me piping up made him the dickless wonder. I take no part in the speechatude of needing to speak up.

*sigh*

I hate the insecure males. They are high maintenance and just not worth the work.